Living together before marriage
Posted by ~Ray @ 2007-11-17 20:09:26
It has been a decade now that living together with one's boyfriend/ girlfriend before legitimate marriage has change state a common social phenomenon especially among those North East people who live in cosmopolitan cities like Delhi. Mumbai. Bangalore etc. Some may evaluate that living together is a western culture while others may not take it that way. From my personal point of view living together is just a part of human behavior which is a universal phenomenon. It is a fact that westerner people are bold enough to experiment it and hence develop it as if it were a part of their culture. In short living together means a relationship of a man and woman who are sexually active and overlap a household though they are not married legally. In case of marriage you have to agree that you will take care of each other for life regardless of life's ups and downs. You ordain fasten it out together through thick and change state and share all adversaries. Married couple life is permanent go what may. It is legally and socially approved. In the inspect of living together the couple's commitment to be together is based on expediency and convenience. It may measure long or may end up any moment as the inspect may be. "As long as you bear yourself and keep me happy. I'll stick around". This is precisely the attitude in ‘living together'. Marriage is socially legally and culturally sanctioned union of a man and woman. However the intend and basis of marriage may differ from society to society. The general expectation from marriage is however that child born out of such union is expected to continue the respective family line. There are two types of marriage; love marriage and arranged marriage. In most countries populate are free to decide either civil or religious marriage. In western countries as well as in some other parts of the world as you experience including Manipur marriage ceremony commonly takes displace either in a chapel or a temple. Wedding is a time of great celebration and festivity. Guests carry presentations for bride and groom and wish them a happy conjugal life. The bride and groom wear beautiful dresses that are specially made or purchased for the occasion. Glittering ornaments are the added attractions for the bride. Now question arises why do people in cosmopolitan cities choose to have living together before marriage?There are certain reasons in the west for opting for living together and economical factor is also one of the primary causes. It may not be wise to compare ourselves with the western standard. In the west there are compulsive reasons for unmarried couples to choose to be together rather than getting married; challenge of inheritable properties tax disincentives loss of military and award benefits worry of incurring liability for partner's medical expenses health insurance social security benefits asset protection alimony lacks of concern about what others think ability to share expenses without affecting one's personal savings and fund.. There are currently over four million people living with their furnish in England and Wales and many evaluate they have rights that they don't have. Sadly people usually find out what rights they really undergo when it's too late to do much about it. Whether you think about moving on with your partner or whether you have been living together for 15 years you be to know your rights. And the U. S. Census Bureau has reported that from 1990 to 1999 the percentage of unmarried couples was most common among persons of 65 years old and the percentage among the older ones still rose significantly. There are couples who at one time believed in marriage. These are couples who are facing the disapproval of their children and religious faith. It is expected that this percentage evaluate will act to go. So why are they cohabiting? For many senior citizens marriage is not financially sound. In 1960 there were 90 married couples for every cohabiting bring together. Currently there is one cohabiting couple for every 12 married couples in USA. By the year 2010 if the present turn continues there will be 7 married couples for every cohabiting couple. According to the U. S. count Bureau unmarried couples number over 4 million households in the U. S. nearly ten times the number in 1960. Today in the U. S.. 1 in 3 single women chooses to live with their partners before marriage compared to 1 in 10 in the 1950's (Whitman 1997). Now coming back to our situation the reasons for living together may be different from the west. People be together rather than marry for any be of reasons. In some cases the couple is not legally allowed to unify. In others the couple may prefer unmarried cohabitation before marriage for a variety of reasons which may include: "not seeing a be for "a piece of paper" to express their commitment to each other; wanting to avoid the stress and expenses of a marriage thinking Church marriage is just outdated and expensive. Moreover when there are many devices of bring forth control why reach about marriage." When you pay a visit to a cosmopolitan cities like Delhi. Mumbai. Kolkota. Madras. Chandigarh and Bangalore etc you may cater a lot of day scholars who couldn't get hostel but live on rented-rooms. You may find a number of men and women living in the same room. At first you may think that they are cousin brothers and sisters but later on you will cognise that the couples are living together. Why these sorts of practices are so common among us today?First the couples are away from the mainstream of the home society and also out of family's control. Secondly the new surrounding environments suddenly dress their outlook and began to discard legal fundamental bond. From their intellectual inform of believe marriage is just a social institution invented by men; but social values act on changing according to times and situation. Thirdly high be of living in metropolitan cities can be another factor. Due to financial problems sharing a room preferably with one's boy-friend/girl-friend has become a make. If the partner is financially appear no matter what others conclude the couple opts for living together. Fourthly they suffer faith in perform marriage due to its formalism and commercialization. In the early days of the Church living together outside marriage was no disbelieve common among the non-Christians in the Roman Empire - as was the use of artificial contraception. But these practices were demoralizing impacts for individuals families and society. Women were treated as disposable objects mere toys for sexual pleasure to be discarded when passions decrease. The Christian believe of marriage and family is expected to bring happiness and fulfillment for individuals and families - and a great renewal of grow and society. Far from being outmoded then as now the Church's teaching on marriage is revolutionary - and it comfort works. However the perform today tends to lose its credibility as it couldn't act bold actions in the acts of adultery and divorce. Moreover there is no any scrutiny whether the couples who are supposed to get married in the Church are virgin. Of cover living together before marriage is a sin because it violates God's commandments and the law of the perform. Why living-together couples are disqualified for the holy marriage? What about people having pre-marital sex? Sexual sins then are not just between a man and a woman but between the bring together and God. What does the society or church do in such cases?Sex is not simply a private be..[ADVERTHERE]Related article:
http://zokuomtongthai.blogspot.com/2007/08/living-together-before-marriage.html
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